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Strange Sex Saturday –  Outercourse

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When we equate intercourse and sex and call everything that comes before intercourse ‘foreplay,’ we are buying into the cultural script that sex should proceed as follows: foreplay , intercourse, orgasm, and game over. However, it’s Saturday and that means we are kicking down the walls around what’s normal! In fact, sex doesn’t have to involve intercourse at all. Even when it does, other forms of stimulation can add to the experience and may improve the odds of reaching orgasm.

So what is outercourse?

Outercourse is an option for sexual activity without intercourse. When you strip it down to the basics, that means different things to different people. For some, it’s everything except penis-in-vagina penetration. For others, outercourse means no penetration of any kind, including fingers, sex toys, and anal sex. Some choose outercourse as a safe sex alternative. They put boundaries around any activity that can cause pregnancy or transmit sexually transmitted infections. Since the definition of outercourse varies, the activities that count as outercourse all depend on who’s practicing it. Your personal definition of outercourse may depend on your reasons for trying it.

Why would you have outercourse?

Wondering why outercourse is worth it when you could be having “real sex” instead? Well, don’t knock it just yet. There are many situations where outercourse might be a great option. Anyone can practice outercourse, no matter your gender, sexual orientation, or whether you’ve had intercourse before. There are quite a few reasons someone may prefer outercourse, here are a couple. You don’t have protection, like if you forgot to bring condoms or take your birth control. One partner doesn’t want to be penetrated or penetrate due to not feeling ready, a painful health condition, trauma, or body dysphoria. You’re tracking fertility and want to avoid the risk of pregnancy on days when one partner is more likely to get pregnant. You want to avoid having sex during your period or your partner’s period. You’ve tried intercourse and decided you need more time before you’re ready for more. You want to mix things up and try something sexual that’s not intercourse. Whatever your reasons may be outercourse is a great way to enhance your foreplay game.

Things to do during outercourse

Sensual massages, kissing, and dry humping are all common forms of outercourse. Mutual masturbation is a great add in for couples who want to reach orgasm together without any kind of penetration. In some definitions oral sex is even an acceptable outercourse activity as long as tongues stay on the clitoris and labia and do not enter the vagina. If it feels good to you and doesn’t involve penetration then add it to your outercourse to do list!

We will see you next Saturday for more strange sex adventures!

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Dating VS Marriage

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Dating and marriage are two distinct stages in a romantic relationship that come with their own set of dynamics and expectations, especially when it comes to the bedroom. In this essay, I will explore the differences between dating and marriage in terms of intimacy, communication, and expectations in the bedroom.

Dating is typically a more casual and exploratory stage where individuals are getting to know each other on a deeper level. Intimacy in dating can range from flirtation and teasing to physical affection and sexual exploration. The bedroom dynamics in dating are often characterized by excitement, passion, and the thrill of discovering each other’s desires and preferences.

In dating, partners may be more focused on the physical aspects of intimacy, such as attraction, chemistry, and sexual compatibility. Communication in the bedroom during the dating stage may be more lighthearted, playful, and spontaneous as partners explore their boundaries and comfort levels with each other.

On the other hand, marriage is a deeper commitment that involves a more significant emotional, physical, and spiritual connection between partners. Intimacy in marriage goes beyond the physical aspects and encompasses emotional closeness, trust, and understanding. The bedroom dynamics in marriage are often characterized by a sense of comfort, security, and a deep emotional bond between partners.

In marriage, partners may focus more on the emotional and relational aspects of intimacy, such as trust, communication, and mutual fulfillment. Communication in the bedroom during marriage may be more open, vulnerable, and honest as partners navigate the challenges and joys of a long-term partnership.

Expectations in the bedroom also differ between dating and marriage. In dating, partners may have fewer expectations and may be more focused on exploring and enjoying the moment. In marriage, partners may have higher expectations for intimacy, communication, and satisfaction in the bedroom as they navigate the complexities of a long-term commitment.

In conclusion, dating and marriage come with their own unique dynamics, expectations, and challenges in the bedroom. While dating is more focused on exploration, passion, and physical attraction, marriage emphasizes emotional intimacy, trust, and communication in the bedroom. Both stages offer their own opportunities for growth, fulfillment, and connection between partners as they navigate the intricacies of building a strong and lasting relationship.

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Kinky questions to ask a new sex partner

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When delving into new sexual experiences with a new partner, it’s important to establish open communication and boundaries. Asking kinky questions can help you both navigate your desires and fantasies comfortably. Here are some kinky questions you may consider asking a new sex partner:

1. Have you ever explored kink or BDSM activities before? What are your thoughts or experiences with it?
2. What are your specific turn-ons or fantasies that you’d like to explore with me?
3. Are there any particular acts or roles that you enjoy or are curious about trying in the bedroom?
4. How do you feel about incorporating toys or props into our sexual encounters?
5. Are you open to trying light bondage, restraints, or sensory play (such as blindfolds or feather ticklers)?
6. Do you have any hard limits or activities that you’re uncomfortable with during sex?
7. Would you be interested in exploring different power dynamics or role-playing scenarios?
8. How do you feel about incorporating elements of domination or submission into our sexual activities?
9. Have you ever tried impact play (such as spanking or flogging) before? Would you be interested in exploring it with me?
10. Are there any specific words or phrases that turn you on or that you find particularly arousing during sex?

Remember, it’s important to approach these questions with an open and non-judgmental attitude, and to always prioritize clear communication and mutual consent in any sexual exploration with a new partner. Enjoy exploring your desires and boundaries together!

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Masterbation Tips

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Masturbation is a natural and normal part of human sexuality. It can be a pleasurable and healthy way to explore your body, understand your sexual desires, and relieve stress. However, for many people, knowing how to masturbate effectively and enjoyably can be a learning experience. Here are some tips to help enhance your solo sexual experience:

1. Find a private and comfortable space: Creating a safe and comfortable environment is essential for a positive masturbation experience. Make sure you have privacy and won’t be interrupted, and consider dimming the lights, playing relaxing music, or using candles to set the mood.

2. Experiment with different techniques: There is no right or wrong way to masturbate, so don’t be afraid to explore different techniques to find what feels best for you. Try using different strokes, speeds, pressures, and motions to see what brings you the most pleasure.

3. Use lubrication: Using lubrication can enhance the sensations and make the experience more pleasurable. Experiment with different types of lubricants, such as water-based, silicone-based, or oil-based, to find what works best for you.

4. Explore your erogenous zones: Your body is full of sensitive and erogenous zones that can enhance your masturbation experience. Experiment with touching and stimulating different parts of your body, such as your nipples, inner thighs, and neck, to heighten pleasure.

5. Incorporate fantasy or erotic material: Engaging in sexual fantasies or using erotic material, such as porn, erotica, or sexting, can help enhance arousal and add excitement to your masturbation session. Just remember to use these resources in a healthy and mindful way.

6. Focus on breathing and relaxation: Pay attention to your breathing and try to relax your body during masturbation. Deep breathing can help you stay present and connected to your body, enhancing the pleasurable sensations.

7. Practice self-love and self-acceptance: Masturbation is a natural and healthy way to explore your sexuality and pleasure. Embrace your body, desires, and fantasies without judgment or shame, and remember that self-pleasure is a positive and empowering act.

Overall, masturbation is a personal and individual experience, so it’s important to explore and discover what feels best for you. By being open-minded, curious, and gentle with yourself, you can enhance your solo sexual experience and enjoy the many benefits that self-pleasure can offer.

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