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Strange Sex Saturday – Kink Shaming

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Around here Saturdays are all about opening and expanding our minds to the “stranger” sides of sex and sexuality, which means, No Kink Shaming! If you have heard the term kink shame, but don’t really understand exactly what that entails, then read on to make sure you are not accidently kink shaming your partner.

What is Kink Shaming

 

Kink shaming is pretty much exactly what it sounds like, embarrassing someone for their sexual preferences, or insinuating something is wrong with them because their sexual desires don’t reside in the boundaries of what you consider normal. This could be about a fetish, a kink, a preference, a history of certain behaviors, or even just an openness or willingness to try something that the other person considers unconventional. This kind of thing can play out in all different ways. It could be as simple as making fun of your friend for a hookup story with an unexpected detail in it, or it could be your long-term significant other trying to make you feel dirty for asking for something new in bed. No matter how the shaming takes place it can be incredibly demeaning and permanently damaging to the relationship.

Why it’s bad

Kink shaming can create negative emotional consequences. It can cause the person being shamed to question the validity of their desires, which can exacerbate any lingering questions of self-worth, depression or anxiety that the receiver already has about their sexuality and identity. When we normalize kink-shaming and general sex-negative attitudes, people grow up feeling ashamed of desires they cannot control. Embrace the notion that everyone is different, and that having unique or non-traditional sexual interests does not mean something is wrong with you.

Around here we are kink positive, embrace the freakier sides of yourself (as long as they are legal and consensual). Come back next Saturday for more strange sex adventures and you’re sure to find your kink in no time!

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First date deal breakers

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When it comes to first dates, there are certain behaviors or traits that can immediately raise red flags and lead to a swift conclusion that the relationship is not worth pursuing. These “deal breakers” can vary from person to person, but some common issues that often lead to a disinterest in a second date include a lack of emotional intelligence, constant complaining, and poor communication skills.

A lack of emotional intelligence can be particularly off-putting, as it suggests that the individual may not be able to empathize with others or manage their own emotions in a healthy way. This can lead to feelings of frustration, resentment, and ultimately, a breakdown in the relationship. Constant complaining, on the other hand, can be draining and exhausting, making it difficult to enjoy each other’s company or feel like you’re on the same wavelength.

Poor communication skills are also a major turn-off, as they can lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and feelings of being unheard or ignored. When communication is lacking, it can create a sense of disconnection and make it difficult to build a strong foundation for a relationship. Other red flags that may signal the need to end the date early include showing up late, being disorganized, or dominating the conversation.

In addition to these specific behaviors, there are also certain personal traits that can be major deal breakers. For example, someone who is overly critical or dismissive of others’ interests may come across as arrogant or entitled. Similarly, someone who doesn’t respect boundaries or pushy may be seen as overbearing or controlling. Ultimately, the biggest deal breakers on a first date will depend on an individual’s personal values and non-negotiables, but generally speaking, these red flags can signal that the relationship may not be worth pursuing further.

In conclusion, while every person has their own unique list of deal breakers when it comes to first dates, there are certain behaviors and traits that are commonly off-putting. By being aware of these potential red flags and communicating openly with your partner about what you’re looking for in a relationship, you can increase your chances of finding someone who is compatible and shares your values.

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Understanding BDSM

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The world of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism)! It’s a complex and multifaceted topic that can be both thrilling and intimidating for those new to the scene.

**Understanding BDSM:**

BDSM is a consensual and negotiated form of sexual expression that involves a range of activities, including:

1. **Bondage:** Physical restraint using ropes, chains, or other materials.
2. **Discipline:** Punishment or correction through physical or emotional means.
3. **Dominance/Submission:** One person takes control, while the other submits to their desires.
4. **Sadism/Masochism:** One person derives pleasure from inflicting pain or humiliation, while the other derives pleasure from receiving it.

**Safety First:**

Before exploring BDSM, it’s essential to prioritize safety and consent:

1. **Consent:** Obtain explicit consent from all parties involved in any activity.
2. **Communication:** Discuss boundaries, desires, and limits with your partner(s) beforehand.
3. **Safe words:** Establish a safe word or signal to stop the activity if needed.
4. **Hygiene and cleanliness:** Practice good hygiene to prevent infection.

**Getting Started:**

If you’re new to BDSM, consider the following steps:

1. **Explore online resources:** Websites, forums, and social media groups can provide valuable information and connections with others.
2. **Read about different activities:** Learn about various BDSM practices, their implications, and potential risks.
3. **Find a community:** Attend local events, join online groups, or find a mentor to learn from experienced individuals.
4. **Start with soft play:** Begin with non-painful activities like role-playing, sensual massage, or bondage using rope toys.

**Activities for Novices:**

Some popular BDSM activities for beginners include:

1. **Flogging:** A form of impact play using a flogger (soft or hard).
2. **Rope bondage:** Tying someone up using rope or cordage.
3. **Sensory deprivation:** Using blindfolds, earplugs, or headphones to heighten sensory experience.
4. **Mummification:** Wrapping someone in cloth or tape for sensation play.

**Tips for Success:**

1. **Communicate openly:** Discuss your desires and boundaries with your partner(s).
2. **Start slow:** Gradually introduce new activities to ensure comfort and consent.
3. **Respect limits:** Never push someone beyond their comfort zone or violate their consent.
4. **Practice self-care:** Prioritize physical and emotional well-being after engaging in BDSM activities.

Remember that BDSM is a journey, and it’s essential to prioritize safety, communication, and consent above all else. If you’re interested in exploring BDSM further, take your time, be patient, and respect the boundaries of yourself and others.

 

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Balloon Fetish

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The fascination with balloons! It’s not uncommon for people to have unique preferences or attractions, and balloon-related arousal is one such phenomenon. While it’s not universally accepted, there are a few theories that might help explain why some people might be turned on by balloons:

1. **Textural stimulation**: The tactile sensation of balloons can be quite pleasurable for some individuals. The smooth, soft, and sometimes slightly rough texture of balloons can be a source of sensory pleasure. Some people might enjoy the feeling of running their fingers or hands over the balloon’s surface, or even popping the balloon to release the air and feel the sudden release of pressure.
2. **Visual appeal**: Balloons can be quite visually appealing, with their vibrant colors, shapes, and sizes. The way they move and float in the air can be mesmerizing, and some people might find the visual display stimulating. The sound of balloons popping or releasing air can also be a sensory trigger.
3. **Nostalgia and childhood associations**: For some people, balloons might evoke memories of childhood birthday parties, celebrations, or special events. The association with happy times and feelings of joy can create a sense of nostalgia and emotional connection to balloons.
4. **Sensory exploration**: Some individuals might be attracted to balloons due to their unique sensory properties. The way they respond to touch, pressure, and movement can create a sense of curiosity and exploration. This curiosity can translate into a sense of arousal or pleasure.
5. **Kinky or fetishistic interest**: In some cases, the attraction to balloons might be related to specific kinks or fetishes. For instance, some people might enjoy the feeling of being bound or restrained by balloons, while others might find the idea of inflating or deflating balloons as a form of erotic play appealing.
6. **Neurological factors**: Research suggests that human brains are wired to respond to certain stimuli, including textures, sounds, and visuals. Some people might have an innate predisposition to find certain sensory experiences pleasurable, including those associated with balloons.

It’s essential to remember that these theories are not universally accepted and are based on individual perspectives and experiences. It’s crucial to respect people’s individual preferences and boundaries when it comes to their sexual attractions.

In conclusion, while the reasons for being turned on by balloons might vary from person to person, it’s likely a combination of factors that contributes to this attraction. Ultimately, understanding and respecting individual preferences is essential for building a more inclusive and accepting society.

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