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Strange Sex Saturday – CBT

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Welcome back to our strange sex Saturday series, this weekend we are grabbing sex by the balls. No, really, CBT stands for cock and ball torture. You may be thinking that the word torture doesn’t really fit with your ideas of sex. However, for some people, having their cock and balls tortured really gets the ball rolling in the bedroom.

Safety First

Make sure that just like with any other form of bdsm all activities are consensual, done safely, and everyone involved has agreed to the activities and boundaries while in a sane and sober state of mind. One critical thing to remember about penis play is that while parts of your twig and berries will heal if damaged, there are other parts that simply will not. For example, small cuts on the scrotum, light bruising on the head, or abrasions to the skin will usually heal without any real serious impact on sensitivity or the ability to achieve or maintain an erection.

Now for the fun stuff

Let’s start at the base of things with the tried-and-true cock ring. A cock ring can serve a dual purpose in CBT play. Physically, a ring binds the penis while at the same time ensuring a longer erection while it is slapped or handled roughly. The ring can also have psychological implications. That cock is now ensnared and owned and is no longer under the control of the owner.

One of the basic (and wholly satisfying) techniques of CBT is a simple penis slap. That hard thing is just jutting out into the air and you strike it with an open palm. From the top, the bottom or the side, this simple act offers immense pleasure. As already previously noted, be very careful about compressing or twisting the shaft of the penis. If the internal spongy tissue is damaged, the penis may not work the same way afterwards. There are more advanced forms of CBT to work up to like sounding, but if you are new to CBT its best to start slow.

For the scrotum, the most common form of CBT play is to tug or squeeze the testicles. You can use a hand, of course, or you can try ball stretchers. Another way to involve the scrotum is to attach clips, such as clothespins, to the skin. These can be used in various types of CBT fun, however, they should be tested first. Try feeling the strength of the clip on various other types of skin, such as your earlobe or between your fingers to determine the level of pinch it delivers. Also, plastic clips are best because they can be sterilized.

Remember to take things slow and easy, maintaining clear communication throughout. The instant anything pinches, is unpleasantly painful, or even just feels uncomfortable, stop and undo any toys or binds involved. We will see you next week while we explore more of the “stranger” sides of sex and sexuality.

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Lactophilia

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Lactophilia, also known as lactosexuality or lactophilia, is a term used to describe a sexual attraction to breastfeeding or the breast milk of another person. It is a type of paraphilia, a sexual preference that involves the arousal or excitement that comes from the thought or act of breastfeeding or the consumption of breast milk.

People who are lactophiles may experience a range of sexual responses to breastfeeding, including arousal, excitement, and pleasure. Some individuals may also fantasize about breastfeeding or drinking breast milk as part of their sexual activities.

It’s important to note that lactophilia is not necessarily associated with any specific age, gender, or orientation. Anyone can develop a sexual interest in breastfeeding or breast milk, regardless of their own gender or sexual orientation.

Some people may find lactophilia to be a source of comfort and intimacy in their relationships, while others may view it as a taboo or unconventional practice. It’s important to respect the boundaries and preferences of all individuals involved in any sexual activity, including those related to lactophilia.

 

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The good and bad of threesomes

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The topic of threesomes! Let’s dive into the pros and cons of this intimate experience.

**Threesomes: Good**

1. **Excitement and Novelty**: Threesomes can bring a new level of excitement and thrill to a relationship, as it involves a new partner and a different dynamic.
2. **Increased Intimacy**: When done correctly, a threesome can create a sense of closeness and intimacy among the three individuals involved, as they work together to create a memorable experience.
3. **Exploration and Discovery**: Threesomes can be an opportunity for individuals to explore their desires, boundaries, and desires with each other, leading to a deeper understanding of themselves and their partners.
4. **Strengthened Bond**: A successful threesome can strengthen the bond between partners, as they work together to navigate the experience and communicate effectively.

**Threesomes: Bad**

1. **Emotional Complications**: Adding a third person to the mix can create emotional complications, such as feelings of jealousy, insecurity, or abandonment.
2. **Pressure and Stress**: The pressure to perform or impress the third person can lead to stress and anxiety, making it difficult to fully enjoy the experience.
3. **Risk of Disconnection**: A threesome can lead to disconnection from one’s primary partner if not handled carefully, as attention is divided between two people.
4. **Unrealistic Expectations**: Some people may have unrealistic expectations about what a threesome will be like, leading to disappointment or frustration when it doesn’t meet those expectations.
5. **Potential for Unhealthy Dynamics**: If not approached with clear boundaries and communication, a threesome can create unhealthy dynamics, such as exploitation or power imbalances.

Threesomes can be a positive and exciting experience when approached with open communication, trust, and respect among all parties involved. However, they can also lead to negative consequences if not handled carefully. It’s essential to consider the potential risks and benefits before engaging in a threesome, ensuring that all parties are comfortable and willing participants.

 

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What is Impact play?

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Impact play is a type of BDSM activity that involves intentionally causing physical impact or pain to the body, typically using various tools or techniques. It can be a highly subjective and personal experience, and its effects can vary greatly depending on the individual’s preferences, boundaries, and physical tolerance.

Types of impact play:

1. Flogging: Using a whip, flogger, or other implements to strike the body with controlled force.
2. Paddling: Using a paddle to strike the buttocks or other areas of the body.
3. Spanking: Using the hand or a paddle to strike the buttocks.
4. Thumping: Using the hands or a blunt object to strike the body.
5. Thigh slapping: Using the hands or a flat object to slap the thighs.
6. Caning: Using a caning tool to strike the body with long, thin rods.
7. Muzzle play: Using a muzzle or gag to restrict speech and breathing while experiencing impact play.

Benefits of impact play:

1. Intimacy and trust: Impact play can create a sense of closeness and intimacy between partners, as it requires communication, trust, and vulnerability.
2. Sensory stimulation: Impact play can stimulate the senses, particularly the skin and nervous system, which can be pleasurable for some individuals.
3. Release of tension: Impact play can provide an intense release of tension and stress, similar to other forms of exercise or massage therapy.

Risks and considerations:

1. Injury: Impact play can cause physical harm, including bruising, cuts, or soft tissue damage, if not performed carefully and with proper precautions.
2. Boundary violations: It is essential to respect each partner’s boundaries and consent before engaging in impact play, as it can be traumatic if done without permission.
3. Emotional distress: Impact play can evoke strong emotions, such as fear, anxiety, or sadness, especially if done without proper preparation or aftercare.

Precautions and guidelines:

1. Establish clear communication: Discuss boundaries, desires, and limits with your partner before engaging in impact play.
2. Use proper equipment: Choose equipment that is safe and suitable for the activity, such as using a soft flogger instead of a heavy one.
3. Warm up and cool down: Gradually increase intensity and volume during impact play to avoid injury or discomfort.
4. Provide aftercare: Offer gentle touch, reassurance, and attention after impact play to help alleviate any discomfort or emotional distress.
5. Practice self-care: Prioritize self-care and take breaks during intense activities to avoid burnout or exhaustion.

Remember that impact play is a highly personal and subjective experience. It’s crucial to prioritize safety, consent, and open communication to ensure a positive and enjoyable experience for all parties involved.

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