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Strange Sex Saturday – CBT

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Welcome back to our strange sex Saturday series, this weekend we are grabbing sex by the balls. No, really, CBT stands for cock and ball torture. You may be thinking that the word torture doesn’t really fit with your ideas of sex. However, for some people, having their cock and balls tortured really gets the ball rolling in the bedroom.

Safety First

Make sure that just like with any other form of bdsm all activities are consensual, done safely, and everyone involved has agreed to the activities and boundaries while in a sane and sober state of mind. One critical thing to remember about penis play is that while parts of your twig and berries will heal if damaged, there are other parts that simply will not. For example, small cuts on the scrotum, light bruising on the head, or abrasions to the skin will usually heal without any real serious impact on sensitivity or the ability to achieve or maintain an erection.

Now for the fun stuff

Let’s start at the base of things with the tried-and-true cock ring. A cock ring can serve a dual purpose in CBT play. Physically, a ring binds the penis while at the same time ensuring a longer erection while it is slapped or handled roughly. The ring can also have psychological implications. That cock is now ensnared and owned and is no longer under the control of the owner.

One of the basic (and wholly satisfying) techniques of CBT is a simple penis slap. That hard thing is just jutting out into the air and you strike it with an open palm. From the top, the bottom or the side, this simple act offers immense pleasure. As already previously noted, be very careful about compressing or twisting the shaft of the penis. If the internal spongy tissue is damaged, the penis may not work the same way afterwards. There are more advanced forms of CBT to work up to like sounding, but if you are new to CBT its best to start slow.

For the scrotum, the most common form of CBT play is to tug or squeeze the testicles. You can use a hand, of course, or you can try ball stretchers. Another way to involve the scrotum is to attach clips, such as clothespins, to the skin. These can be used in various types of CBT fun, however, they should be tested first. Try feeling the strength of the clip on various other types of skin, such as your earlobe or between your fingers to determine the level of pinch it delivers. Also, plastic clips are best because they can be sterilized.

Remember to take things slow and easy, maintaining clear communication throughout. The instant anything pinches, is unpleasantly painful, or even just feels uncomfortable, stop and undo any toys or binds involved. We will see you next week while we explore more of the “stranger” sides of sex and sexuality.

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How to describe an orgasm

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Describing an orgasm is a deeply personal and subjective experience, as it can vary greatly from person to person. For some, it may be intense, explosive, and all-encompassing, while for others, it may be subtle, gradual, and more nuanced. However, there are some general themes and sensations commonly associated with orgasms that can be described.

Physiologically, an orgasm is often characterized by a buildup of tension and excitement in the body, followed by a release of that tension in a series of pleasurable contractions and spasms. This release is typically accompanied by a rush of intense sensations and feelings of euphoria.

Emotionally, an orgasm can evoke a wide range of emotions, including pleasure, ecstasy, joy, and even a sense of transcendence. Many people describe feeling a deep sense of connection with their partner or themselves during an orgasm, as well as a profound sense of release and relaxation.

Sensations during an orgasm can vary, but often include a feeling of warmth and tingling that spreads throughout the body, a sense of heightened awareness and sensitivity to touch, and a feeling of being completely present in the moment.

Some people may experience a mental or emotional release during an orgasm, which can manifest as a sense of letting go of stress, tension, or inhibitions. Others may experience a sense of clarity, focus, or even spiritual connection during an orgasm.

Ultimately, the experience of an orgasm is deeply personal and can be difficult to put into words. It is a complex and multifaceted event that involves physical, emotional, and psychological aspects, and can vary greatly from person to person. Each individual may experience orgasms in their own unique way, and it is important to honor and respect the diversity and complexity of human sexuality and pleasure.

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What not to do getting into phone sex

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Phone sex can be a fun and intimate way to connect with your partner, spice up your relationship, and explore your fantasies together. However, like any form of sexual activity, it is important to establish boundaries, respect each other’s comfort levels, and communicate openly and honestly. To ensure a positive and enjoyable phone sex experience, it is helpful to be aware of what not to do during phone sex:

1. Don’t assume consent: It is crucial to ensure that both partners are comfortable and consenting to engage in phone sex. Just because you and your partner have done it before does not mean they are always up for it. Always ask for and respect their consent before initiating phone sex.

2. Don’t pressure or coerce: It is important to remember that each person has their own boundaries and comfort levels. Do not pressure or coerce your partner into participating in phone sex if they are not comfortable with it. Respect their feelings and desires, and be willing to stop if they express discomfort or hesitation.

3. Don’t rush: Take your time and enjoy the experience. Rushing through phone sex can make it feel mechanical and unfulfilling. Focus on building anticipation, creating a sensual atmosphere, and exploring each other’s desires at a pace that feels comfortable for both partners.

4. Don’t make assumptions: Everyone has different preferences and fantasies when it comes to sexual activity. Do not assume that your partner shares the same desires or interests as you. Instead, communicate openly and honestly about what you both enjoy and establish boundaries and limits before engaging in phone sex.

5. Don’t forget about consent and privacy: Remember that phone sex is a form of intimate communication and should be treated with respect and confidentiality. Make sure that you are in a safe and private environment where you can have uninterrupted, consensual phone sex without the risk of being overheard or interrupted.

6. Don’t forget to communicate: Communication is key in any sexual activity, including phone sex. Make sure to talk openly with your partner about your desires, boundaries, and fantasies. Check in with each other throughout the experience to ensure that you are both enjoying yourselves and feeling comfortable.

In conclusion, phone sex can be a fun and exciting way to connect with your partner and explore your sexual desires together. By being respectful, communicative, and mindful of each other’s boundaries and comfort levels, you can ensure a positive and enjoyable phone sex experience for both you and your partner.

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Ever thought about being a Swinger?

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Swinging, also known as the lifestyle or the swinging lifestyle, is a form of non-monogamous sexual activity in which couples engage in consensual sexual activities with other couples or individuals. Swingers typically meet and interact with other like-minded individuals through social events, clubs, websites, or online communities. The practice of swinging has been around for decades, and while it may still be considered taboo by some, it is becoming more mainstream and accepted in modern society.

Swinging is based on the idea of consensual non-monogamy, where partners agree to explore sexual experiences outside of their primary relationship. This can involve various activities, such as partner swapping, group sex, threesomes, or exhibitionism. Swingers often establish ground rules or boundaries with their partners to ensure that both parties feel comfortable and safe while engaging in these activities.

There are many reasons why people choose to participate in swinging. Some individuals and couples are looking to spice up their sex lives, explore new fantasies, or enhance their relationships by introducing an element of adventure and excitement. Swinging can also provide opportunities for individuals to explore their sexuality, build trust and communication with their partners, and connect with a community of like-minded individuals.

Swingers come from all walks of life, and there is no one-size-fits-all definition of who a swinger is. Swingers can be individuals of any sexual orientation, relationship status, age, race, or background. Some swingers may be in committed long-term relationships, while others may be single or in open relationships. The diversity within the swinging community allows individuals to find like-minded partners and explore their desires in a safe and welcoming environment.

Swinging is often surrounded by misconceptions and stereotypes, which can lead to stigma and judgment from those who do not understand or accept this lifestyle. However, it is important to emphasize that swinging is based on consent, respect, and communication among all parties involved. Swingers prioritize open and honest communication, trust, and boundaries to ensure that everyone involved feels comfortable and respected.

In conclusion, swinging is a consensual and non-monogamous sexual practice that allows individuals and couples to explore their desires and fantasies in a safe and consensual manner. While swinging may not be for everyone, it provides a space for individuals to connect with like-minded individuals, build strong relationships, and explore their sexuality in a supportive and inclusive community. By challenging misconceptions and stereotypes, we can create a more accepting and understanding society that respects the choices and preferences of all individuals, including swingers.

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