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Are Fetishes in Fact Normal?

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From feet, to eyes, to pee, to plushies if you can name it chances are someone out there probably has sexual associations with it. Fetishes are much more common than most people realize. Recently 2,300 people where polled and 75% indicated they did in fact have a fetish. Does that mean they are normal, or just common? If you’re wondering if your devious mind is a little twisted read on to find out if your kinks are crazy or common.

It’s all in your mind

It’s easy to get swept up in the physical sensations elicited by fetishes and forget entirely that they originate in the brain. In fact brain-overlap is a popular theory for why some of the more common fetishes exist. This theory holds that the part of our brain that handles arousal is close to part of our brain that deals with other things like our feet. So sometimes, the two parts of the brain get a little scrambled and voila a foot fetish is born.

The Pavlovian Response

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There’s also the “disgust theory.” A lot of the things people have fetishes for smells, fecal matter, urine are typically considered disgusting under normal circumstances. However, when you’re experiencing disgust your other natural defenses are down, so you may be more vulnerable to feelings like sexual attraction and arousal. If that happens often enough, then a Pavlovian response can mean that you start to associate these things with sex and arousal.

Normal after all

So not only are sexual fetishes normal in that many of us have them, they’re also normal in that they are a natural byproduct of how our brain functions. If you’re someone who has a fetish you’ve been ashamed of, or maybe even multiple, it’s time to start embracing it. If you are having safe, healthy, and consensual sex then pretty much anything goes.

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Lactophilia

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Lactophilia, also known as lactosexuality or lactophilia, is a term used to describe a sexual attraction to breastfeeding or the breast milk of another person. It is a type of paraphilia, a sexual preference that involves the arousal or excitement that comes from the thought or act of breastfeeding or the consumption of breast milk.

People who are lactophiles may experience a range of sexual responses to breastfeeding, including arousal, excitement, and pleasure. Some individuals may also fantasize about breastfeeding or drinking breast milk as part of their sexual activities.

It’s important to note that lactophilia is not necessarily associated with any specific age, gender, or orientation. Anyone can develop a sexual interest in breastfeeding or breast milk, regardless of their own gender or sexual orientation.

Some people may find lactophilia to be a source of comfort and intimacy in their relationships, while others may view it as a taboo or unconventional practice. It’s important to respect the boundaries and preferences of all individuals involved in any sexual activity, including those related to lactophilia.

 

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The good and bad of threesomes

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The topic of threesomes! Let’s dive into the pros and cons of this intimate experience.

**Threesomes: Good**

1. **Excitement and Novelty**: Threesomes can bring a new level of excitement and thrill to a relationship, as it involves a new partner and a different dynamic.
2. **Increased Intimacy**: When done correctly, a threesome can create a sense of closeness and intimacy among the three individuals involved, as they work together to create a memorable experience.
3. **Exploration and Discovery**: Threesomes can be an opportunity for individuals to explore their desires, boundaries, and desires with each other, leading to a deeper understanding of themselves and their partners.
4. **Strengthened Bond**: A successful threesome can strengthen the bond between partners, as they work together to navigate the experience and communicate effectively.

**Threesomes: Bad**

1. **Emotional Complications**: Adding a third person to the mix can create emotional complications, such as feelings of jealousy, insecurity, or abandonment.
2. **Pressure and Stress**: The pressure to perform or impress the third person can lead to stress and anxiety, making it difficult to fully enjoy the experience.
3. **Risk of Disconnection**: A threesome can lead to disconnection from one’s primary partner if not handled carefully, as attention is divided between two people.
4. **Unrealistic Expectations**: Some people may have unrealistic expectations about what a threesome will be like, leading to disappointment or frustration when it doesn’t meet those expectations.
5. **Potential for Unhealthy Dynamics**: If not approached with clear boundaries and communication, a threesome can create unhealthy dynamics, such as exploitation or power imbalances.

Threesomes can be a positive and exciting experience when approached with open communication, trust, and respect among all parties involved. However, they can also lead to negative consequences if not handled carefully. It’s essential to consider the potential risks and benefits before engaging in a threesome, ensuring that all parties are comfortable and willing participants.

 

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What is Impact play?

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Impact play is a type of BDSM activity that involves intentionally causing physical impact or pain to the body, typically using various tools or techniques. It can be a highly subjective and personal experience, and its effects can vary greatly depending on the individual’s preferences, boundaries, and physical tolerance.

Types of impact play:

1. Flogging: Using a whip, flogger, or other implements to strike the body with controlled force.
2. Paddling: Using a paddle to strike the buttocks or other areas of the body.
3. Spanking: Using the hand or a paddle to strike the buttocks.
4. Thumping: Using the hands or a blunt object to strike the body.
5. Thigh slapping: Using the hands or a flat object to slap the thighs.
6. Caning: Using a caning tool to strike the body with long, thin rods.
7. Muzzle play: Using a muzzle or gag to restrict speech and breathing while experiencing impact play.

Benefits of impact play:

1. Intimacy and trust: Impact play can create a sense of closeness and intimacy between partners, as it requires communication, trust, and vulnerability.
2. Sensory stimulation: Impact play can stimulate the senses, particularly the skin and nervous system, which can be pleasurable for some individuals.
3. Release of tension: Impact play can provide an intense release of tension and stress, similar to other forms of exercise or massage therapy.

Risks and considerations:

1. Injury: Impact play can cause physical harm, including bruising, cuts, or soft tissue damage, if not performed carefully and with proper precautions.
2. Boundary violations: It is essential to respect each partner’s boundaries and consent before engaging in impact play, as it can be traumatic if done without permission.
3. Emotional distress: Impact play can evoke strong emotions, such as fear, anxiety, or sadness, especially if done without proper preparation or aftercare.

Precautions and guidelines:

1. Establish clear communication: Discuss boundaries, desires, and limits with your partner before engaging in impact play.
2. Use proper equipment: Choose equipment that is safe and suitable for the activity, such as using a soft flogger instead of a heavy one.
3. Warm up and cool down: Gradually increase intensity and volume during impact play to avoid injury or discomfort.
4. Provide aftercare: Offer gentle touch, reassurance, and attention after impact play to help alleviate any discomfort or emotional distress.
5. Practice self-care: Prioritize self-care and take breaks during intense activities to avoid burnout or exhaustion.

Remember that impact play is a highly personal and subjective experience. It’s crucial to prioritize safety, consent, and open communication to ensure a positive and enjoyable experience for all parties involved.

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