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Aftercare for Intense Play Scenes

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If you are into some of the kinkier sides of sex, then you already know aftercare is important, this is especially true if you include more intense toys and activities into your sexual encounters. Aftercare is, in its simplest form, a post-sex wind-down ritual. Aftercare rituals are different for everyone, however, we have some tips for post play etiquette if you or your partner add pain to your pleasure.

First – First Aid

Tending to each others physical needs is as important as mental needs when it comes to impact scenes. When it comes to blood and/or knife play, wounds should be disinfected and patched up. Any bruising should be iced. If you have used restraints muscles may have cramped and tensed, Nothing releases tension like a long, drawn out massage. Make sure you are both rehydrating as well. If you play intensely chances are your bodies just had a workout and you need water and electrolytes replenished. Some sugary snacks to replenish blood sugars and ease drop are also a great idea to add to your aftercare.

Second – Debrief

Affirming your partner that they are loved, valuable and wonderful is a fantastic way to partake in aftercare. Praise their performance, let them know what you liked and didn’t like. Don’t worry about setting a limit for play if you are on the fence about it. If weeks, months, years, or decades down the road you find yourself interested in types of impact play you’d formerly side-lined, you can absolutely return to them then.

Finally – Reconnect

Letting your partner cuddle up while you bring them water and blankets is a great way to comfort and reconnect with them. You could also try cleaning each other up and brushing each other’s hair. Having slower, more sensual sex can function as aftercare in the face of humiliation or other rough play. It can allow partners to reconnect to who they actually are and disconnect from their roles as dominant or submissive. If you are sexed out and want to reconnect without using much energy cuddling is the way to go. Cuddling helps us release the hormone oxytocin, which can reduce stress and increase intimacy.

Don’t forget aftercare is important for dominant partners and submissive partners. While there is a lot of focus on aftercare for submissives, it’s also valuable for dominants to unwind.

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Lactophilia

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Lactophilia, also known as lactosexuality or lactophilia, is a term used to describe a sexual attraction to breastfeeding or the breast milk of another person. It is a type of paraphilia, a sexual preference that involves the arousal or excitement that comes from the thought or act of breastfeeding or the consumption of breast milk.

People who are lactophiles may experience a range of sexual responses to breastfeeding, including arousal, excitement, and pleasure. Some individuals may also fantasize about breastfeeding or drinking breast milk as part of their sexual activities.

It’s important to note that lactophilia is not necessarily associated with any specific age, gender, or orientation. Anyone can develop a sexual interest in breastfeeding or breast milk, regardless of their own gender or sexual orientation.

Some people may find lactophilia to be a source of comfort and intimacy in their relationships, while others may view it as a taboo or unconventional practice. It’s important to respect the boundaries and preferences of all individuals involved in any sexual activity, including those related to lactophilia.

 

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The good and bad of threesomes

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The topic of threesomes! Let’s dive into the pros and cons of this intimate experience.

**Threesomes: Good**

1. **Excitement and Novelty**: Threesomes can bring a new level of excitement and thrill to a relationship, as it involves a new partner and a different dynamic.
2. **Increased Intimacy**: When done correctly, a threesome can create a sense of closeness and intimacy among the three individuals involved, as they work together to create a memorable experience.
3. **Exploration and Discovery**: Threesomes can be an opportunity for individuals to explore their desires, boundaries, and desires with each other, leading to a deeper understanding of themselves and their partners.
4. **Strengthened Bond**: A successful threesome can strengthen the bond between partners, as they work together to navigate the experience and communicate effectively.

**Threesomes: Bad**

1. **Emotional Complications**: Adding a third person to the mix can create emotional complications, such as feelings of jealousy, insecurity, or abandonment.
2. **Pressure and Stress**: The pressure to perform or impress the third person can lead to stress and anxiety, making it difficult to fully enjoy the experience.
3. **Risk of Disconnection**: A threesome can lead to disconnection from one’s primary partner if not handled carefully, as attention is divided between two people.
4. **Unrealistic Expectations**: Some people may have unrealistic expectations about what a threesome will be like, leading to disappointment or frustration when it doesn’t meet those expectations.
5. **Potential for Unhealthy Dynamics**: If not approached with clear boundaries and communication, a threesome can create unhealthy dynamics, such as exploitation or power imbalances.

Threesomes can be a positive and exciting experience when approached with open communication, trust, and respect among all parties involved. However, they can also lead to negative consequences if not handled carefully. It’s essential to consider the potential risks and benefits before engaging in a threesome, ensuring that all parties are comfortable and willing participants.

 

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What is Impact play?

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Impact play is a type of BDSM activity that involves intentionally causing physical impact or pain to the body, typically using various tools or techniques. It can be a highly subjective and personal experience, and its effects can vary greatly depending on the individual’s preferences, boundaries, and physical tolerance.

Types of impact play:

1. Flogging: Using a whip, flogger, or other implements to strike the body with controlled force.
2. Paddling: Using a paddle to strike the buttocks or other areas of the body.
3. Spanking: Using the hand or a paddle to strike the buttocks.
4. Thumping: Using the hands or a blunt object to strike the body.
5. Thigh slapping: Using the hands or a flat object to slap the thighs.
6. Caning: Using a caning tool to strike the body with long, thin rods.
7. Muzzle play: Using a muzzle or gag to restrict speech and breathing while experiencing impact play.

Benefits of impact play:

1. Intimacy and trust: Impact play can create a sense of closeness and intimacy between partners, as it requires communication, trust, and vulnerability.
2. Sensory stimulation: Impact play can stimulate the senses, particularly the skin and nervous system, which can be pleasurable for some individuals.
3. Release of tension: Impact play can provide an intense release of tension and stress, similar to other forms of exercise or massage therapy.

Risks and considerations:

1. Injury: Impact play can cause physical harm, including bruising, cuts, or soft tissue damage, if not performed carefully and with proper precautions.
2. Boundary violations: It is essential to respect each partner’s boundaries and consent before engaging in impact play, as it can be traumatic if done without permission.
3. Emotional distress: Impact play can evoke strong emotions, such as fear, anxiety, or sadness, especially if done without proper preparation or aftercare.

Precautions and guidelines:

1. Establish clear communication: Discuss boundaries, desires, and limits with your partner before engaging in impact play.
2. Use proper equipment: Choose equipment that is safe and suitable for the activity, such as using a soft flogger instead of a heavy one.
3. Warm up and cool down: Gradually increase intensity and volume during impact play to avoid injury or discomfort.
4. Provide aftercare: Offer gentle touch, reassurance, and attention after impact play to help alleviate any discomfort or emotional distress.
5. Practice self-care: Prioritize self-care and take breaks during intense activities to avoid burnout or exhaustion.

Remember that impact play is a highly personal and subjective experience. It’s crucial to prioritize safety, consent, and open communication to ensure a positive and enjoyable experience for all parties involved.

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